It’s week 3 of fall term. After nearly four weeks of training and extensive paperwork the housing staff across campus have finally put their practice into action. Everything has gone totally smoothly. That’s a complete lie, but things can always be worse.
Last year I had the luck of working with half of my closest friends, and that came with it’s own set of problems. There are some things to keep in mind when working with your bestie.
1. Gossip can kill productivity
I’ve seen it happen, when a functional group of coworkers slowly descends into petty gossip. You can have your bitch night with your girls and down a bottle of wine, but make sure it doesn’t go farther than that. Don’t gossip where you actually work, and be careful that you don’t get pulled into any kind of workplace soap opera.
Also, make sure you don’t share anything about your bestie that could even be remotely defined as secret.
2. Remember to branch out
Just because you’ve entered the workplace with an attached-at-the-hip bestie doesn’t mean you can’t make new friends. There’s always the possibility that your friend leaves, or that you’ll need those other people at some time. You don’t need to replace your bestie, but I always recommend being friends with at least 3 or so people in your office, especially if they’re from different positions. This gives you access to people from varying levels of the company should you ever need a favor or miss something. It also gives you some other people to socialize with. Try to spend at least one lunch hour a week with other people. Light conversation and food are great bonding mechanisms.
3. Be accepting of other coworkers
Don’t ice everyone out because they’re not a part of your duo or regular social group. If someone invites one of you out and not the other, you should go. If you both find that your gravitating towards different work groups, go for it. There’s nothing wrong with a little space between friends, especially in section of their life that’s so structured and defined like work is.
4. Separate your work and personal life
That’s basically been the gist of this whole post, but I’ll say it again. Last year my personal life and work life were one and the same and it was exhausting. The same people and issues all the time, no breaks from either one. As much as I loved most of those people, that just didn’t work for me. Take a breather and have multiple groups of friends, in and out of work. You don’t have to be besties with everyone, but the occasional night out with coworkers can be a respite from friend drama, and talking with your friends can relive the stress from work.
Everything in moderation, and all that jazz. Does anyone else have any experience working with their friends? Any suggestions on how to make it work best?